Intended Parent Consultations for Third Party Reproduction
Navigating the path to parenthood through assisted reproductive technology can feel overwhelming. Our intended parent consultations provide the guidance, education, and emotional support you need as you consider what being a parent will mean for you. We provide third party consultations for individuals and couples throughout Texas.
Investment: $350 for a comprehensive 50-75 minute Session
What Is a Intended Parent Consultation?
Choosing to grow your family through third-party reproduction is a deeply personal journey — and it’s okay if it comes with a whole mix of emotions. Grief and hope. Uncertainty and clarity. Sometimes all at once.
Whether you’re exploring egg donation, sperm donation, embryo donation, or gestational surrogacy, there’s a lot to hold — emotionally, relationally, and ethically. You don’t have to figure it all out on your own.
Intended parent consultations are here to walk alongside you. Together, we’ll create space to process what you’re feeling, answer your questions, and make sure you feel genuinely informed and supported as you move forward — while also fulfilling your fertility clinic’s consultation requirements.
What to Expect During Your Session
This isn’t a quick check-the-box call — it’s a real, unhurried conversation built around your unique circumstances, values, and goals. The consultation will be a virtual meeting for 75 minutes in length at a cost of $350. The fee includes the report that I’ll send to your fertility clinic. Please note that these sessions are not covered by insurance, so a superbill will not be provided.
While this isn’t therapy, it is a focused, thoughtful consultation designed to offer education, reflection, and guidance, though some individuals and couples do choose to schedule follow-up consultations or ongoing therapy with me for additional support when desired. Our time together is not a time to rule you out. The tone is conversational and collaborative, with room for honesty, questions, and uncertainty.
In our time together, we’ll explore what’s most relevant to you — which might include:
- Finding the right donor or gestational carrier for your family
- Your hopes, fears, and questions about this path to parenthood
- The unique experiences of couples, single parents, and LGBTQ families navigating third-party reproduction
- How this process can shape the emotional experience of both parents and children
- Talking with your child about their conception — the how, the when, and the words to use
- Navigating relationships and boundaries with donors or surrogates
Many people find that this conversation brings a new sense of clarity—where things begin to come together and the path forward feels more grounded and manageable.
Why do an Intended Parent Consultation?
If you’re pursuing third-party reproduction in Texas and working with a fertility clinic or a local Texas Reproductive Endocrinologist, chances are you’ve already done a lot of research, asked a lot of questions, and felt a lot of feelings. This consultation isn’t one more hoop to jump through — it’s genuinely one of the most valuable parts of the process.
Yes, many fertility clinics, agencies, and attorneys require it. But more than that, it’s a dedicated space just for you — to breathe, reflect, and prepare for the road ahead. There’s no judgment here, no right or wrong answers, and nothing you could say that would surprise me.
Together, we’ll:
- Explore feelings and questions you may not have known how to voice yet
- Think through things you haven’t considered — not because you’ve missed something, but because nobody can think of everything
- Build your confidence around talking with your child about their story and origins
- Work through the worries and “what ifs” that are completely normal to have
You’re not here because something is wrong. You’re here because you care deeply about doing this well — and that already says everything about the kind of parent you’re going to be.
If you’re feeling like you hit a roadblock, conflicted, or grieving the path you hoped to be on, fertility therapy may be the best option to figure out what is next. Therapy can be a meaningful method to consider your options without pressure or judgment, before embarking on the intended parent consultation.
Inclusive Support for Family Building
Every path to parenthood is deeply personal, and no two journeys look the same. Some families arrive at third-party reproduction after a long road through infertility, while others choose it as their starting point. Wherever you are in your journey, my consultations are designed to feel welcoming, affirming, and grounded in both care and clarity.
No matter your story, the goal is the same: to help you move forward with clarity, confidence, and a strong sense of connection to the family you are building.
Single Parents By Choice
Choosing to parent on your own is both powerful and deeply personal. You may be thinking about how to select a donor, how to tell your child their story, and what kinds of support systems will help you thrive. It’s common to feel a mix of confidence and vulnerability—pride in your decision alongside an awareness of the challenges ahead. Our work together honors both, helping you prepare with thoughtfulness and self-compassion.
LGBTQ+ Families
Many queer parents build their families through egg donation, sperm donation, and/or surrogacy. These paths come with unique and meaningful considerations—how to talk about each person’s role in bringing a child into the world, how to navigate legal complexities, and how to shape a family story that feels intentional and empowering. Together, we also make space to acknowledge and process the realities of today’s social and political climate, ensuring you feel supported on every level.
Couples Pursuing Third-Party Family Building
For many couples, this path can bring up complex emotions. There may be grief around unmet expectations of conceiving naturally, questions about genetic connection, and concerns about how family and community will respond. It’s also not uncommon for partners to be in different emotional places—one ready to move forward, the other needing more time to process. These conversations are held with care, creating space for both shared understanding and individual experiences.
Why Work With Oak Harbor Wellness?
This stage of family building deserves the right person in the room with you. As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), my approach is shaped by real, extensive experience working with individuals and couples navigating infertility, reproductive decision-making, and queer family building. I don’t do generic. I follow the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) guidelines, and I bring:
- A deep, working knowledge of reproductive psychology and family systems
- A warm, steady approach to sensitive conversations—always without judgment
- Inclusive, affirming care for LGBTQ+ families, single parents, and diverse family structures
- Real tools—not platitudes—to help you move forward with clarity and confidence
I’m also a member of Postpartum Support International’s Mental Health Provider directory and the ASRM Mental Health Professionals Group. This process rarely brings one feeling at a time—grief, hope, excitement, and fear often show up together, uninvited. My job isn’t to smooth that over. It’s to make room for all of it, while helping you walk into parenthood grounded, prepared, and true to what matters most to you.
Where to Begin
If you are in Texas and third-party family building is on your path —egg donation, sperm donation, embryo donation, or surrogacy—an intended parent consultation isn’t a box to check. It’s a place to actually land. To slow down, ask the real questions, and step into parenthood with your eyes open, not just your hope. This is where clarity gets built, not assumed.