Intended Parent Consultations for Third Party Reproduction

Navigating the path to parenthood through assisted reproductive technology can feel overwhelming. Our intended parent consultations provide the guidance, education, and emotional support you need as you consider what being a parent will mean for you.

Investment: $350 for a comprehensive 50-75 minute Session

What Is a Intended Parent Consultation?

Choosing to grow your family through third-party reproduction is a deeply personal journey — and it’s okay if it comes with a whole mix of emotions. Grief and hope. Uncertainty and clarity. Sometimes all at once.

Whether you’re exploring egg donation, sperm donation, embryo donation, or gestational surrogacy, there’s a lot to hold — emotionally, relationally, and ethically. You don’t have to figure it all out on your own.

Intended parent consultations are here to walk alongside you. Together, we’ll create space to process what you’re feeling, answer your questions, and make sure you feel genuinely informed and supported as you move forward — while also fulfilling your fertility clinic’s consultation requirements.

What to Expect During Your Session

This isn’t a quick check-the-box call — it’s a real, unhurried conversation built around your unique circumstances, values, and goals. The consultation will be a virtual meeting for 75 minutes in length at a cost of $350. The fee includes the report that I’ll send to your fertility clinic. Please note that these sessions are not covered by insurance, so a superbill will not be provided.

While this isn’t therapy, it is a focused, thoughtful consultation designed to offer education, reflection, and guidance, though some individuals and couples do choose to schedule follow-up consultations or ongoing therapy with me for additional support when desired. Our time together is not a time to rule you out. The tone is conversational and collaborative, with room for honesty, questions, and uncertainty.

In our time together, we’ll explore what’s most relevant to you — which might include:

Finding the right donor or gestational carrier for your family
Your hopes, fears, and questions about this path to parenthood
The unique experiences of couples, single parents, and LGBTQ families navigating third-party reproduction
How this process can shape the emotional experience of both parents and children
Talking with your child about their conception — the how, the when, and the words to use
Navigating relationships and boundaries with donors or surrogates

Many people find that this conversation brings a new sense of clarity—where things begin to come together and the path forward feels more grounded and manageable.

Why do an Intended Parent Consultation?

If you’re pursuing third-party reproduction, chances are you’ve already done a lot of research, asked a lot of questions, and felt a lot of feelings. This consultation isn’t one more hoop to jump through — it’s genuinely one of the most valuable parts of the process.

Yes, many fertility clinics, agencies, and attorneys require it. But more than that, it’s a dedicated space just for you — to breathe, reflect, and prepare for the road ahead. There’s no judgment here, no right or wrong answers, and nothing you could say that would surprise me.

Together, we’ll:

Explore feelings and questions you may not have known how to voice yet
Think through things you haven’t considered — not because you’ve missed something, but because nobody can think of everything
Build your confidence around talking with your child about their story and origins
Work through the worries and “what ifs” that are completely normal to have

You’re not here because something is wrong. You’re here because you care deeply about doing this well — and that already says everything about the kind of parent you’re going to be.

Inclusive Support for Family Building

Every path to parenthood is deeply personal, and no two journeys look the same. Some families arrive at third-party reproduction after a long road through infertility, while others choose it as their starting point. Wherever you are in your journey, my consultations are designed to feel welcoming, affirming, and grounded in both care and clarity.

No matter your story, the goal is the same: to help you move forward with clarity, confidence, and a strong sense of connection to the family you are building.

Single Parents By Choice

Choosing to parent on your own is both powerful and deeply personal. You may be thinking about how to select a donor, how to tell your child their story, and what kinds of support systems will help you thrive. It’s common to feel a mix of confidence and vulnerability—pride in your decision alongside an awareness of the challenges ahead. Our work together honors both, helping you prepare with thoughtfulness and self-compassion.

LGBTQ+ Families

Many queer parents build their families through egg donation, sperm donation, and/or surrogacy. These paths come with unique and meaningful considerations—how to talk about each person’s role in bringing a child into the world, how to navigate legal complexities, and how to shape a family story that feels intentional and empowering. Together, we also make space to acknowledge and process the realities of today’s social and political climate, ensuring you feel supported on every level.

Couples Pursuing Third-Party Family Building

For many couples, this path can bring up complex emotions. There may be grief around unmet expectations of conceiving naturally, questions about genetic connection, and concerns about how family and community will respond. It’s also not uncommon for partners to be in different emotional places—one ready to move forward, the other needing more time to process. These conversations are held with care, creating space for both shared understanding and individual experiences.

Why Work With Oak Harbor Wellness?

Choosing the right professional for this stage of family building matters. My consultations are shaped by extensive experience working with individuals and couples navigating infertility, reproductive decision-making, and queer family building.

Guided by the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) recommendations, I offer:

- - - - A strong foundation in reproductive psychology and family systems
        
        A warm, steady approach to sensitive conversations—always without judgment
        
        Inclusive, affirming care for LGBTQ+ families, single parents, and diverse family structures
        
        Practical tools to help you move forward with clarity, confidence, and compassion

I’m also a member of Postpartum Support International’s Mental Health Provider directory and the ASRM Mental Health Professionals Group. This process can bring up many emotions at once—grief, hope, excitement, and uncertainty often coexist. My role is to make space for all of it, while helping you prepare for parenthood in a way that feels thoughtful, grounded, and aligned with your values.

Where to Begin

If you’re considering third-party family building—whether through egg donation, sperm donation, embryo donation, or surrogacy—an intended parent consultation offers a meaningful place to begin. It’s an opportunity to slow down, reflect, and thoughtfully prepare for parenthood with greater clarity, confidence, and intention.